i hope sj comes at u bc u have the worst taste omg
Pilou Asbæk as Paolo Orsini in The Borgias
I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. - When Harry Met Sally
So, on the one hand, I love this - of course I do. Maureen Johnson’s piece is excellent and the flipped book covers are a powerful visual reminder of marketing double standards and of how women are perceived and treated as a “special interests” group.
My only concern is that we’ll become so focused on making things super safe and comfortable for anyone who wants to avoid anything tinged by its association with stereotypical femininity that we’ll end up communicating that these things should indeed be avoided, not only by men but also by any smart and sophisticated women.
As someone was just saying on Twitter, we’re all conditioned to think of anything coded male as gender neutral to begin with. I don’t, by the way, believe for a second that interests, colours, aesthetic sensibilities or whatever are inherently gendered, but we do perceive them as such, and that affects how prestigious they are.
In my dream world, we’d completely dissociate all interest and subject matters from gender, and then we’d re-examine the ones that currently have low status because of their association with femininity and collectively decide that actually they’re not inherently inferior and it’s okay to like them.
I don’t have any solutions, by the way, only questions, and I do love all the conversations around #coverflip I’ve seen in the past 24 hours. But I really hope there’s some way to avoid pigeon-holing women writers without simultaneously reinforcing the notion that we should despise anything overtly coded as “girly”.
I’m not even a real person.